The danger of making YOUR will… “His.”

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How many times have you been faced with a decision, you know… the REALLY HARD kind, and you find yourself desperate for answers? We have all been there- you flip open your Bible, fan the pages, and put your finger down for a verse that validates the notion you already have set in your heart (I HOPE YOU DON’T STILL DO THAT!). Or maybe you go around and, despite being warned by friend after friend, you keep searching until someone backs up the desires you want affirmed. We all know this is dangerous, and yet it is still done. What does this do to our God?

There are certain truths that the Lord has established:

1. God demands holiness
2. There is a definite sowing & reaping process that the Lord has put into motion

Each of us can only go about our own way until God stops us and demands righteousness. Sometimes we are too proud to admit that waiting is a good thing. We feel that we need to prove to everyone else that the lusts of our flesh are, in actuality, the will of God. Be careful. God will not be mocked.

This morning, we opened up the word and I was reminded of this once again. The Israelites were notorious for conquering their enemies at the command and direction of the Lord. But eventually they saw the world around them and their lavish kingdoms. They, too, decided that they wanted a king to rule over them… even though this was NOT the will of God. The Lord knew that this was going to lead to their weaknesses, to their eventual dispersion… but the Israelites decided that the face of an earthly king would make them great… and God allowed it. He let them reap what they decided to sow.

“Then the elders of Israel gathered together and came to Samuel at Ramah and said to him, ‘Behold, you are old and your sons do not walk in your ways. Now appoint us a king to judge us like all the nations.’ But the thing displeased Samuel when they said, ‘Give us a king to judge us.’ And Samuel prayed to the Lord. And the Lord said to Samuel, Obey the voice of the people in all that they say to you, for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected me from being king over them. According to all the deeds that they have done, from the day I brought them up out of Egypt even to this day, forsaking me and serving other gods, so they are also doing to you. Now then, obey their voice.1 Samuel 8: 4-9

Despite intimately witnessing the Lord’s guidance in their lives, the Israelites came to a place where they wanted to impose their desires on the Lord. They wanted to exchange their “good idea” for “God’s idea.” In effect, they were dethroning the Lord, in exchange for the wisdom of their own might.

Before I proceed, let me point out that THERE IS DIFFERENCE between

Asking the Lord for HIS will to be made clear


MAKING A DECISION and -THEN- passing it off as God’s.

Maybe it’s a relationship. Maybe it’s who you marry.. or WHEN you decide to marry them. Maybe it’s a job. Maybe it’s a move. Maybe it’s when you decide to add members to your family. Pay attention to the counsel of your loved ones, especially those who spend time with the Lord. Listen for the soft whispers of God, I promise you that they are there. In the end, you may pull the wool over your friends’ eyes… but, one day, you will have to answer to the one who sees the heart.

As observed in 1 Samuel 8, many times God will allow you to continue down your path… to reap what you sow. Even if it isn’t in His perfect will. Think of a free-faller. The whole way down they are screaming with delight, demanding attention. Oh yeah, they’re living it up alright! Everyone from the bottom looks UP to them thinking, “Man, look at the FREEDOM and JOY they are experiencing! What a life!!!” But hitting the pavement is going to be a whole different story. God will, at an ordained moment in time, stop them and demand holiness from the people who call themselves His children. Sometimes God stops the faller by letting them reap the harvests of a horrific garden they created (SMACK! THEY’RE DEAD!)… and sometimes He reaches out and shows them grace, knowing that this loving act will change them for the good (A truck with a bed of hay just happens to stop below, cushioning their fall! Wow! THEY HAVE ALL THE LUCK!). But only God is sovereign and knows which end-result is most affective. Sometimes it will be through an undeserved deliverance from Nineveh… or  maybe through a painful swallowing by a whale. Either way, God intimately knows what direction to take for teaching and taming our hearts.

But do you really want to take that chance? Do you have an agenda that, in your sound mind, you believe is the perfect timeline for the way your life should go? Why would you want to test God and step off the cliff? And let’s say you were given the grace card, after a decision that you KNOW you forced, and you’ve abused it (i.e. you parade your grace for more showmanship points). Scripture shows that God will take the measures to sanctify! Be careful.

Sometimes we are that person, and sometimes we are the victims of them. Let me encourage you!!! It is so easy to let bitterness build up… but ultimately, you have to come to a place and realize that your issue isn’t with THEM… but rather, it’s with the Lord and how HE chooses to demand righteousness. We will NEVER get free-fallers to stop, reconsider, and climb back up… because they can’t. They are on an ever-propelling path to destruction. The more we analyze them the more distraught we will become because it is always going to be the same result– they are who they are- and God has not stopped them dead in their tracks yet. Just remember that a holy God demands holiness… and one day we will all have to answer for what we do. One cannot claim to have intimacy with Him unless they are clothed in righteousness themselves. You cannot let others be the reason that bitterness has taken root in your heart, keeping YOU from that intimacy you desire too. Therefore, choose to surrender over your idea of justice.

Okay, okay… enough preaching, Brandi! What does all this have to do with adoption??

I guess there is always that temptation to rush the process to motherhood. Just like there may be a temptation to rush into marriage when you’re not ready… or rush into a leadership role because you know that you hold the power of influence. But God has NOT appointed my time yet and has called me to wait upon adoption. I WANT to be a mother with every last fiber within me, and these days you can force just about anything to go your way. But there is a difference between God’s PERMISSIBLE WILL and His PERFECT WILL. Jordan and I try to always make sure we fall within the latter… but most of the time means waiting on the direction of the Lord. It means admitting that we don’t have it all together, that we don’t know what we’re doing… it means allowing God to be our king, instead of becoming our own.

My husband has been in my life for about 7-8 years. It’s only natural that I want children. All of my friends that have been with their spouses that long already have children. A year or two ago I felt like that verse, “I have been forgotten like one who is dead; I have become like a broken vessel. But I trust in you, O Lord; I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in your hand… save me in your steadfast love! Oh how abundant is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you and worked for those who take refuge in you!” Only God can save me from the temptations of the flesh. He wants to pour over me an abundance of goodness! And this means grace to sustain me until the PERFECT time to make His goodness known! If we allow Him, God loves taking the time to carve us into His mouth-pieces to be USED. One of my new favorite phrases is “The Lord can do more in my waiting than in my doing I could do.” And right now, He’s working on me in this timeline that I choose not to rush.

Are there gods in your life that He’s asking you to surrender? Maybe it’s not so much WHAT or WHO you’re struggling with… but more like waiting for “WHEN” something is supposed to happen. We have a responsibility to promote our Lord at every opportunity available… how tainted for one to potentially take his ways and pass them off as God’s holiness! Like it or not, we can negatively shape the world’s view of Christianity when we author our actions as God’s. Do we want our Lord to come across as some unsound force, “telling us” to make unwise moves, when really it’s just the faults of our flesh? Remember whose reputation you are called to protect. Stand up. Take the hard road. If you truly are His, then you’re called to it anyway.

Every choice we make will be reflected in eternity. Just because God allows you to do something, doesn’t mean that it is the plan He has made for you. Just wait. Still your soul before God Almighty and take a time-out. Let Him lead. One day, in hind-sight, you will be so glad that you did.

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